I’ve got a buddy who’s always complaining about the girls that he dates and hooks up with.
Somehow he always finds that girl that he’s never happy with or that he has zero chemistry with. Now bear in mind that this particular dude can be a little difficult to get along with at times, as his friend I know this. However there’s more to his misadventures with the opposite sex than he or most other dudes realize. As a matter of fact, he’s making one major error (and usually many other minor ones as well) in his futile pursuit: he’s repeating his same mistakes with every woman he encounters.
It was Albert Einstein that once said that “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” But you don’t need one-tenth of Einstein’s brain power to realize a flaw in your routine and take corrective action.
In the past my friend has fought off paralyzing shyness when approaching a girl if his blood-alcohol level was anything under 0.12, and this really set him back. Never mind that a social setting with booze is already an easy go-to for someone looking to break out of a hump slump. At one point he had such a tough time overcoming his own hesitancy that he signed up with a bunch of online matchmaking sites in hopes that he’d miraculously find dating gold in the dating shit pan known as the internet.
My feelings about online dating are unequivocally obvious.
Instead of bitching and feeling bad about himself, he oughta be making positive and palpable changes in his methods, that way he can get out of his dating rut for good!
-Going someplace different, someplace where you might find common ground (other than, “damn! vodka shots are fun!”) with a girl that you meet. Someplace that offers not just a single fleeting moment for you to use some stupid pickup line, but a place where you and the young lady can hit it off.
-Doing something to improve yourself and make yourself more attractive to girls. Working out. Cutting your hair (or letting it grow a little). Mastering another language. Whatever, some form of positive change is always a good thing on your sex appeal resume.
-Taking a different approach and attitude into social situations. Don’t force it if it isn’t clicking, but don’t give up when she gives you a bad time or asks you a tough question. Ask her different questions, tell different (better) jokes, talk to and be genuinely friendly to everyone, not just the girl you wanna go home with. When you’re genuinely friendly to everyone, you become personable and the life of the party. You become easily approachable, and when you become approachable you attract others and get approached by them. Even if you don’t go home with a Perfect Ten model or the woman of your dreams that night, you’ll have had more fun, guaranteed.
It is purely psychological and it is always true!
Life is too short to keep hitting your head against the wall and not expect to get a headache.
“Sex without love is merely healthy exercise”
~Robert Heinlein
